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Jesus H.
Christ.
I need to learn how to express myself better.
I just this minute looked at Beth's
forum again to see the continuation of "Dress Me Up in Your Love" (or
"Beth Gets a Make-Over"). The discussion, up to the point of my bon
mot, needed only curlers, pillows, and cottonballs between our toes
(and maybe Stockard Channing) to make it a sleep-over. Then there's me:
Oooh, talk of dresses! Droooool. I am not particularly skinny, but
I have fairly good proportions except lately with an expanding paunch.
I hate my bust, though, and am grateful only that it balances/excuses
my tush (maybe only in my imagination). Far worse, Beth, to have a large
butt and no bust.
I'm about Beth's height, with a reasonable figure (except that I attempt
to disguise my cleavage), and similarly refuse any kind of high-upkeep
look (I would read Kim Rollins fascinated and aghast at the time she
spent on herself) and to wear uncomfortable shoes. For me, the perfect
item of clothing is a long dress with either no waist and a straight
but not tight skirt or a drop waist with a looser skirt. Long skirts
look good with flat sandals (summer) or boots (winter) or whatever inbetween
shoe I can find (rare).
I wish Denver had more interesting (or is it just affordable?) used
or vintage or consignment clothing stores. I love the idea of Beth's
bedroom being decorated as an artist's interpretation of what a girl's
bedroom should look like (something mentioned around when Lucy and Kymm
visited, maybe?) with dresses hanging from the mouldings. Also the description
of a suit of whitest, palest pink palpitated my heart. But if you can
find a good pair of shorts overalls, buy a lifetime supply.
-- LJH, August 20, 1999.
I made a
few mistakes here. Most important, no one likes to be discussed as if
she's not in the room (especially at a sleepover--remember how Sandy felt),
and that's what my mention of Kim Rollins sounds like. Just because she
stopped a journal that everyone in their right mind loved doesn't mean
she's no longer in the building. Secondly, the adjective "aghast" sounds
contemptuous when I meant to connote merely that maintaining a high maintenance
look is alien to me. You can probably figure out some others, but I'm
not good at admitting my faults to others (except that I freely admit
the fault of being unwilling to enumerate my faults to others).
Kim wasn't
pleased:
Hey, LJH, sorry to make you sit around slack-jawed at my
beauty routines; drool on one's collar doesn't really suit anyone, after
all. For the record, I go clothes-shopping a couple times a month [never
recreationally, always in quest of a specific item] and spend about
ten minutes daily on makeup plus hair, tops. I can't really understand
how that would blow your little mind, but whatever. I'm comfortable
with the amount of energy I expend on fashion et beaute; it's fun for
me, I enjoy decorating myself and treating everything I put on as a
sort of costume that filters the way the world sees me. What irritates
me is that I'm compelled to live on a planet where I am constantly judged
on my looks, but any effort I put into improving my outward appearance
is taken as evidence of frivolity, airheadedness, and egoism.
Anyway, so we were talking about clothes. I like jeans that ride on
the hip rather than the waist; they look more up-to-the-minute and [I'm
talking to you, Beth] since they sort of flatten out anyone's ass, being
loose in the vicinity of the cheek, they will also disguise a lack of
roundness in that area.
For makeup, I've always favored that '40s starlet look of a matte, even
face, little eye detail [mascara alone, and only if you have blonde
lashes, as do I] and dark lipstick. It's timeless, easy to maintain
[what do those eyeliner chicks do, anyway, use eyedrops all day so that
they don't have to blink? that crap ends up all over my face within
a half-hour]. A nearly-naked face does look better with a shaped brow,
but that only takes a few [painful] minutes every couple of weeks in
upkeep. Plucking friends with darker brows than mine are constantly
complaining of eyebrow stubble, though.
Lately I've also taken to wearing toenail polish. It doesn't get rapidly
chipped away like fingernail polish does, unless you scratch the cats
with your toes or something, and I like waking up in the morning with
part of myself already "done". I also dig those bra- strap headbands,
after I found one at Sephora without any butterflies or rhinestones
or shit on it. I wanted something that kept the hair out of my eyes
without making me look like I was a 30-year-old woman desperately trying
to pass for a coed. Fat headbands look too housefrauesque I think I'm
finally too old for twin contour barettes, so if one of the younger
set represented here wants to inherit my substantial collection, drop
me a line. sigh.
As for hair, try Joico's Altima leave-in conditioner so that you don't
have to kill a few minutes in the shower every morning, followed by
a bit of shea butter for gloss. Mmmm, I love shea butter. The stuff
I use is lavender-scented [from Pre de Provence], and comes in a little
tin like shoe polish. You liquify a bit in your palms and rake it through
your hair while it's still a little damp; pushing it away from your
hairline will hold those growing-out bits out of your face.
Not being busty, I don't know what to tell you about tops. I feel so
sorry for chesty babes; it seems like you have the choice to either
go non-fitted and look heavy, or tight and look as though they're hot
to trot. Of course, when I go to Vicky's, everything in my size has
a couple inches of padding in it, as if I should not even contemplate
leaving the house with an unaugmented B cup.
I do like the Savvy section at Nordstrom, which strikes a good balance
between twentysomething trendiness and somber adulthood. I can't shop
at joints that pitch to teens and twentyish types [Mariposa, the Brass
Plum, Contempo] anymore because I can't stand their stupid hip-hop music.
Sad, I know. I am truly over the [Lauryn] hill.
Now that I've properly horrified Ms. Houlihan, I'll just crawl back
into my hole with my mirror and the latest issue of _Vogue_ to revel
in my shallowness.
-- Kim Rollins, August 21, 1999.
I think I pissed her off, no? I didn't mean to.
I emailed
her:
"Fascinated and aghast" doesn't mean "disgusted out of all proportion
and respect"! Boy howdy. You had great stories about dyeing your hair
and whatnot, which I thoroughly enjoyed, but such activity is completely
alien to me, who only extremely infrequently wears make-up and doesn't
understand why anyone would dye, bleach, or perm hair. If "aghast" was
too strong a word, I think "fascinated" balances it out. And where did
I say or imply shallow? Criminy. You were, and remain on what little
evidence you submit, one of the best writers I have seen on the web,
which is a quality I don't associate with shallowness.
My first
impulse was to email her, and I did; while writing the email my second
impulse was to reply to the forum as well, since she did. I squelched
that, because she didn't really. I only think so because I am resisting
being faced with Another Instance of Lisa Tactlessness and Thoughtless
Off-the-cuff-ism and want to deny public remonstration (however rightfully
delivered). Kim's submission only opened and closed with acid dismissals
of your humble narrator; the gist was all about Beth, as it should be.
Beth's forum is Beth's, not mine to grovel defensively in; this is mine,
the Beauty School Drop-Out's.
Kim knows how to strand people at a drive-in, doesn't she? Linda of Stranger
Than Fiction shredded her, Beth disagreed, and that started an interesting
exchange (with a moral: Beth's right plus she's a lawyer, so back
off). Hope of news of her ups Rob's hits. Wil probably had a bigger immediate
and sustained audience than any journaler who started that month. If word
gets out that Kim said I have drool on my collar, my audience will surge.
So hi. Keep the hate-mail to a minimum please and turn off the lights
on your way out. And remember, if you can't express yourself as well as
Kim did, write your own damn web page. I can't, and I do.
After
I had written all this, Kim responded to my email, and I breathed a sigh
of relief that we each regretted our tone. I sent her the above for comment.
She pointed out she hasn't been entirely absent, evincing further egotism
on my part that any paltry aside of mine could make her break her silence.
Reading
her in the forum, I squirmed with embarrassment: "The author of one
of the best-liked journals ever (though but four or five months total:
she was that good) said this about me and particularly called my
mind little and now everyone will hate me." Now, with the
reassurance of her email, despite knowing that the most minor obscure
question on Beth's forum gets more attention in a day than my entire site
has ever, somehow the worry about global antilisaism dissipated. That
is a saner reaction than I expected myself to have.
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